“Trust, Transparency, & Generosity” with Chris, Eddie, & Cody

 
 

Show Notes:

Eddie, Chris, and our producer Cody Hickman sit down to discuss generosity and how it’s changed over the years. The three of them have a combined 61 years* of experience in a church setting, and all three have seen changes in giving. Economic factors, widespread institutional distrust, and increases in the cost of living mean that now more than ever, people need to trust the organizations they give to. To get that trust, organizations need transparency: where is your money going? How much good is being done with your resources? Are there other ways you can help when you can’t donate financially? 


It helps when churches connect the dots between what God is doing in the world and how you can be a part of it, but this is not just a conversation for pastors. The beneficial ripples that generosity creates is good for us individually, and those ripples strengthen our institutions, communities, and world. 


*approximately. Math is not their strong suit.


Transcript:

Chris McAlilly 00:00

[INTRO] Leadership today demands more than technical expertise. It requires deep wisdom to

navigate the complexity of a turbulent world, courage to reimagine broken systems, and

unwarranted hope to inspire durable change

Eddie Rester 00:22

As Christ-centered leaders in churches, nonprofits, the academy, and the marketplace, we all

carry the weight of cultivating communities that reflect God's kingdom in a fragmented world.

Chris McAlilly 00:33

But this weight wasn't meant to be carried alone. The Christian tradition offers us centuries of

wisdom if we have the humility to listen and learn from diverse voices.

Eddie Rester 00:43

That's why The Weight exists, to create space for the conversations that challenge our

assumptions, deepen our thinking, and renew our spiritual imagination.

Chris McAlilly 00:52

Faithful leadership in our time requires both conviction and curiosity, rootedness in tradition,

and responsiveness to a changing world.

Eddie Rester 01:01

So whether you're leading a congregation, raising a family, teaching students, running a

nonprofit, or bringing faith into your business, join us as we explore the depth and richness of

Christ-centered leadership today. Welcome to The Weight. [END INTRO]

Eddie Rester 01:17

I'm Eddie Rester.

Chris McAlilly 01:18

I'm Chris McAlilly.

Cody Hickman 01:19

Hey, I'm Cody Hickman.

Chris McAlilly 01:20

And this is The Weight podcast. Today we are talking about generosity and how it impacts

organizational life and church life. And we're glad to be together. We don't have a guest. This is

a conversation...

Eddie Rester 01:34

We are the guests.

Chris McAlilly 01:35

We are the guests.

Eddie Rester 01:36

We are the guests today.

Chris McAlilly 01:37

That's because Eddie's been in ministry for how many years?

Eddie Rester 01:39

27 years. 28? 28 years.

Chris McAlilly 01:41

17 for me. How many did you say?

Cody Hickman 01:44

15 or 16, probably.

Chris McAlilly 01:45

We've got a lot of experience.

Eddie Rester 01:46

60 plus years. I'm not gonna do math. I don't...

Chris McAlilly 01:49

We're gonna be talking about...

Cody Hickman 01:50

Nobody expects that from you, Eddie.

Chris McAlilly 01:52

Don't do math.

Eddie Rester 01:53

I'm not gonna do math.

Cody Hickman 01:54

That's the number one takeaway from this episode.

Chris McAlilly 01:57

The way that people think about giving, about generosity has changed through time. But it's

really important if you want to engage in a sustainable way in your community, make an

impact. Money is part of that. You know, funding the ministry is part of that, and that's what

we're talking about today.

Eddie Rester 02:17

One of the things that I think most organizations realize is that COVID shifted a lot of things. It

shifted a lot in how people see organizations, their trust of institutions, how they respond to

them. We also got caught up in just a shift in generational understanding, in generosity. And

you know, we can talk about some of the things that have impacted the younger two

generations, that really have caused them, I think, to rethink how they spend money, how they

respond to organizations. But there are a lot of things in the mix right now for folks who are

trying to figure out, whether it's a church or nonprofit, how do we engage people so that they

are willing to give, to be generous? Which I think is part of what God has called us to be, is to

be generous people.

Chris McAlilly 03:09

Yeah, so that's what we're talking about. What? Why are you excited about this conversation,

Cody?

Cody Hickman 03:14

[LAUGHTER] Why am I excited? So I think it's an interesting conversation, as the youngest

person at this table right now.

Eddie Rester 03:22

Wow.

Cody Hickman 03:22

Yeah, I am. You're very, you're much older than me, Eddie.

Chris McAlilly 03:26

You are.

Cody Hickman 03:27

It's just a truth. Math.

Chris McAlilly 03:29

Math.

Cody Hickman 03:30

I think it's interesting to follow. I mean, a lot of things you said. There's, I think there's a big

institutional distrust, especially in a younger generation, and what it means to give, and why

we give. And I mean just the things that we have available to us to give to now, and how easy it

is to do that. It's just not the same as it was 10, 15, 20 years ago. And so, you know, why

should anyone give to their local church?

Chris McAlilly 04:00

I do think that's the... I think it's why give. That's the first question.

Cody Hickman 04:04

Yeah.

Chris McAlilly 04:04

It's not even why give to the church. But why should a person be generous? Why should

somebody give to anything rather than just, you know, live a life of unbridled hedonism where

you get as much money as you can and then spend it on yourself?

Eddie Rester 04:18

You've waited a long time to use the word hedonism on the podcast.

Chris McAlilly 04:21

Do you want me to use it again?

Eddie Rester 04:23

No, we're good.

Chris McAlilly 04:23

Okay.

Eddie Rester 04:25

You know, I think for Christians, that one of the things that we believe is that all is a gift, and if

all is a gift, then our response is also gift. If we follow a generous God, then if we're going to

emulate and reflect that life of God into the world, then we're generous as well. I think about

stories going all the way back into Genesis, where God is talking to Abram and saying, I'm

gonna make you a great nation. And he says, I'm gonna give you ancestors. But the last thing

he tells him is...

Chris McAlilly 04:58

You get a car. You get a car.

Eddie Rester 05:00

That's right. You get a car! He's not Oprah. God's not Oprah. There's the pull line right there.

God's not Oprah.

Cody Hickman 05:07

That's the title of this episode.

Eddie Rester 05:08

The title of this episode. Is that the last thing is, I'm going to bless you so that you may become

a blessing. And I think from the very early pages of Scripture, there's a sense that we are

blessed so that we can bless others.

Chris McAlilly 05:24

Yeah, we can get into the issues and the challenges and the obstacles around giving, or how

the mechanics and the tactics around how an organization might be structured towards

financial sustainability. But the starting place, if you're a Christian organization, if you're a

church, really is a theology of giving and...

Eddie Rester 05:41

Right.

Chris McAlilly 05:41

Generosity originates for people of faith with God, God's character. God is generous. God is

good, faithful, merciful, abounding in steadfast love. It's the generosity of God that we

experience in the created world, in, you know, the gifts that we receive. And it's just in some

ways, like gratitude is the starting point.

Eddie Rester 06:02

Right.

Chris McAlilly 06:03

Wouldn't you say? I mean, it's just developing, cultivating a habit of gratitude and recognizing

the good gifts that have been given to you. I think that's the starting place.

Eddie Rester 06:13

I think that's definitely the starting place that once we realize the gifts that have been given, it

frees us to give.

Chris McAlilly 06:20

Another thing that has helped me is to think about God as the owner of everything. You know, I

don't own anything. I own things, but only provisionally.

Eddie Rester 06:31

There was a great illustration a preacher used one time. It wasn't me, but he...

Cody Hickman 06:37

We knew that when you said, "a great preacher." Boom.

Eddie Rester 06:39

This is why you wanted Cody on this episode.

Cody Hickman 06:43

[LAUGHTER]

Chris McAlilly 06:43

Yes, yes.

Eddie Rester 06:45

But he said, If you go to stay at somebody's house and you're trying to thank them when you

leave the house. You know, our understanding of what we own would be like you grabbing one

of their lamps and saying,

"Hey, I want to thank you for letting me stay at your house. Here's

your lamp." And so we're giving back what's already been given to us.

Chris McAlilly 07:04

It's a different way of thinking about the economy. You know, in God's economy, God owns

everything. Everything belongs to God. You know, all the stuff, all of your energy and time and

resources and money and your house and your car and your dog and your stuff. It all belongs to

God. God is the maker and the owner of everything, and that's good news. In part, it's good

news because God, if God's the owner of everything, then we don't have to worry. There's this

sense that we're free to receive the good gifts of God, and that God's going to provide.

Eddie Rester 07:40

Yeah, I think we begin to hold tighter to what we have when it is hard or it's difficult to think

about where is the next provision coming from? Am I going to have a job? You know, one of the

things that we when we look at the youngest generations, they've had some incredibly

tumultuous years growing up. When you think about Gen Z and millennials, they had 911 the

great recession of 2008. A lot of millennials were coming into the working world at that point

and either lost their jobs or...

Cody Hickman 08:19

Didn't have a market to go into.

Eddie Rester 08:20

Didn't ever have a job to go to. The digital revolution that happened 2005 to 2007, which really

began to upend a lot of different markets, a lot of different ways of seeing the world. The 2020

pandemic. Right now we have the tariff economy. And what happens is that for the youngest

generations, any fluctuations in the world economy or the national economy impact them the

most. And so when we think about these younger generations, who, particularly for older

millennials, should be in a stage of really generosity. This is the stage for older, older

millennials, when they should really be stepping into some financial leadership in terms of

nonprofits, churches, different organizations, universities, colleges. All that's been delayed

because of everything that they've been through. You think about the Greatest Generation that

went through the Depression and then World War Two. Maybe that's parallel to what the

younger generations have gone through, but probably not.

Chris McAlilly 09:28

I also think about man, it just costs more money to live to live today. Cody and I were talking

about it. Somebody ran into me, my vehicle, and totaled my car.

Eddie Rester 09:39

Wait, your, the Subaru?

Chris McAlilly 09:40

The Outback. I don't think I've told you this.

Eddie Rester 09:42

No, I didn't know that.

Eddie Rester 09:43

The Subaru's gone, man.

Chris McAlilly 09:43

All right, so I'm there.

Eddie Rester 09:45

That's a blessing. We talked about it last time. It's been held together by tape for a while, but

go ahead.

Chris McAlilly 09:50

It was a blessing.

Cody Hickman 09:50

[LAUGHTER]

Eddie Rester 09:51

Thank you, Lord Jesus.

Chris McAlilly 09:53

Thank You Lord Jesus, taking it out, and this is how it went. It was an act. It I don't think it was

an act of God. It was actually a. I won't name publicly all the things that happened. But

nevertheless, I was there and my car was hit by a stray tire going 35 to 40 miles an hour.

Eddie Rester 10:12

No way, damn.

Chris McAlilly 10:14

Like I hit my microphone to simulate the impact of the tire hitting my car.

Eddie Rester 10:21

Oh wow.

Chris McAlilly 10:21

Anyway, totaled out my car, and so I've got a little bit insurance money, and I'm looking at the

used car market. And I don't know if you've looked at recently.

Eddie Rester 10:29

Uh huh.

Chris McAlilly 10:30

It is stupid.

Eddie Rester 10:31

It's dumb.

Chris McAlilly 10:32

It's like, double what it was last time.

Cody Hickman 10:33

It's double since the last time I bought a truck.

Chris McAlilly 10:34

Yeah, it's so dumb. So if you're... You've already, you know, raised your kids, Eddie, and now

you're sending them out into the world.

Eddie Rester 10:42

I know. The last one's graduating, so.

Chris McAlilly 10:44

Yeah. And so I, you know, it's like in the middle of life, there's just so much, so many expenses.

It's hard to think about all the things that just have to be covered, plus.

Eddie Rester 10:53

Right.

Chris McAlilly 10:53

The plus seems impossible.

Eddie Rester 10:54

Well, and for again, I want to go back to those younger generations, millennials, which I think

both of you are millennials and Gen Z.

Chris McAlilly 11:01

You can't label me.

Cody Hickman 11:02

We're millennials.

Eddie Rester 11:03

You're millennials.

Cody Hickman 11:04

We're elder millennials.

Eddie Rester 11:06

Just the economic pressures your generation and the generation below, because y'all are not

young anymore, are facing educational costs. Public education, public education went up more

than 200% between 1987 and 2017. That's not private school, private colleges, that's public

universities. People between the age of 25 and 34 have an average of $32,000 of educational

debt. Childcare costs right now...

Cody Hickman 11:44

Insane.

Eddie Rester 11:44

25% of a young person's annual budget.

Cody Hickman 11:48

Yep.

Eddie Rester 11:48

Basically they're paying for childcare what they're also paying for housing costs. So 50% or

more of their budget is being eaten up by two expenses.

Cody Hickman 11:59

Which then leads you to like. So, I have four kids, too. They're 10 and under. So that's the

decision we had to make. My my wife, she cut hair for a living, and then third kid came along.

And so we're looking at...

Eddie Rester 12:11

Yeah.

Cody Hickman 12:12

It doesn't make sense to keep paying childcare prices. So now, okay, she's gonna stay home

with the kids, and she homeschools the kids now, and so that's a decision we had to make. We

can either, you know, pay these crazy costs for our kids to go to daycare, or she can stay home,

and we can figure it out on one income. And that's a common story right now.

Eddie Rester 12:30

Well, I did a lot of research for this, for my job with Cargill Associates that I was in for a year,

and housing costs, from '20 to '23, housing payments went up 100%. Median income only went

up 12% during that time. So every economic data point for the last decade or more has been

punishing for young adults. And so we, I think what you were talking about a minute ago, is

that's part of the conversation around generosity and giving, is that it's just expensive.

Chris McAlilly 13:07

Yeah, that's right. But those are some of the external factors. Some of the other factors include

something that Cody mentioned earlier, which is just widespread institutional distrust,

particularly among, you know, churches and other organizations. I think that's a huge factor.

People just don't trust churches to do good work. And so I do think one of the things that you

see is, I don't know, maybe just a higher degree of discipline around these things in nonprofits,

the educational space, etc. We're in a college town here, and, you know, the university...

Philanthropy is a larger and larger component of... I mean, that's a public research university,

but a lot of the funding is coming from private funding. And so that's just another thing that is

out there that would would compete with an organization that's in a nonprofit, or,church space

for for resources. And so I think all of that has to lead, it seems to me, to more clarity about

why people give in general, and why would people give specifically to a church or a Christ-

centered nonprofit.

Eddie Rester 14:20

Right.

Chris McAlilly 14:20

And that comes back to communication. And sometimes...

Cody Hickman 14:22

Yeah, I think that that's a huge part of it. I think for a long time, for generations, the church

didn't have to have a real good why. I mean, it's probably helpful if you did, but you didn't have

to.

Eddie Rester 14:32

You didn't have to, no.

Cody Hickman 14:33

And people, it was just part of the routine. You were part of a local church. You gave to the local

church, and I think...

Eddie Rester 14:39

And that was your first gift.

Chris McAlilly 14:41

It was a duty, it was an obligation.

Eddie Rester 14:42

It was your first gift. If you gave to anyone else, it was way down the line.

Cody Hickman 14:46

Yeah, 100% and so, you know, that's just not the case anymore. There's lots of organizations

that do really good stuff, both, you know, Christian organizations and secular and they're doing

good work and that are worthwhile causes. You want to give to an organization that's building

wells for people in Africa, you know, that's a worthy cause. And so people see that. And

honestly, I think one of the reasons why people have shifted to that, aside from just the access

to that and knowing what these organizations are, is that those organizations are way better at

communicating the why than churches are.

Eddie Rester 15:20

Because they've had to be.

Cody Hickman 15:21

They've had to be, yeah. They had to navigate the marketplace and rise to the top of that. And

churches are just real behind. I mean, that's true across the board with churches. We're

typically 10 years behind the curve on everything else, but that's especially true in

communication.

Chris McAlilly 15:35

Yeah, so one of the things that we've tried to get much better about, Cody and I've had these

conversations, we talked about it through time, and part of it is making sure that you're

showing clear impact.

Eddie Rester 15:45

Correct.

Chris McAlilly 15:45

You know that the metrics of you know, if you give X, it is going to go to Y. And you know that is

a different habit for a church than than perhaps for a nonprofit or a for profit organization, just

tangibly connecting giving to real, measurable results, I think, is a really important factor. What

are some of the other factors in communication you think are important?

Eddie Rester 16:11

What I think that if, you know, you have to build trust, and if you're speaking to the two

youngest generations, and only about half of Gen Z is 18 or older, because they have become

frugal, and their life is just expensive. They see giving as discretionary. They give when they

can. They give to who has moved them, and the statistics bear that out. They don't give

because of institutional loyalty. So I think some of what you have to do is build trust through

story. What are the stories of your church or your organization, where lives are being changed,

where the mission that you state you're on and pursuing is actually being accomplished? If your

church says we're going to do great things with the children in our community. Okay, what are

the results of that? Prove it.

Cody Hickman 16:12

Yeah.

Eddie Rester 17:06

Show people that you are actually doing that. Tell the story well, so that others can tell the

story well.

Chris McAlilly 17:14

Yeah, it's giving that begets giving, and it's a way of giving, not out of obligation, but out of

inspiration. And so I think part of the important, that's where I guess communications and

finance have to be in deep conversation with one another always, so that giving flows toward

people and stories and causes that move other people. And this has happened. You know,

we've seen this happen. We've put an emphasis on generosity that leads to being able to do

the things like paying for the lights to be on and the HVAC to run, but it's put us in a position to

do something we've never done before.

Chris McAlilly 18:00

This year, Cody and I talked for years about, how do we give more away, especially at Easter,

Easter and Christmas?These times of year where, you know, you're gonna have a lot of people

come to the church that maybe don't come all the time. You want to demonstrate, those

particularly high impact moments that the church isn't just interested in itself. And so we were

able to give away half of our Easter offering this year.

Eddie Rester 18:24

And OU gives away their entire Christmas offering.

Chris McAlilly 18:27

Christmas offering,yeah. And so we just got this back, and we gave to a great organization in

our community called Doors of Hope that helps women, mothers specifically, who are on the

brink of eviction with children, and the wraparound services. It's a great organization. But in

addition to the gift that we gave, I just found out today, there was an anonymous individual

who essentially matched the gift.

Eddie Rester 18:51

Wow.

Chris McAlilly 18:51

Which is incredible.

Cody Hickman 18:52

I didn't know that.

Eddie Rester 18:53

That's awesome.

Eddie Rester 18:53

Right.

Chris McAlilly 18:53

It comes back to the storytelling dimension to me.

Chris McAlilly 18:53

Yeah.

Chris McAlilly 18:53

Isn't that incredible? And it's just, it's generosity that begets generosity. It's infectious.

Eddie Rester 18:54

Well, and when you look at the stats of what millennials and Gen Z pay attention to, they pay

attention to social media and to social media stories. They pay attention to video, short form

video, not seven or eight minute video or five minute video, and probably not even four

minutes or three minutes of video. Compelling storytelling that is consistent. You know, I think

one of the things that churches and other organizations fall into is sharing what's coming up,

information, calendar stuff, how to get registered for things, and we never follow back up with

story.

Cody Hickman 19:46

Yeah. So I'm going to say this, not to say that we succeed doing this all the time, because we

don't. And look, a lot of this stuff comes down to personnel. Do you have enough people to do

all the stuff you want to do? That's just a reality. And so right now, we have fewer people, and

we're not, we don't do it every time. But the goal is, if you're going to promote an event, then

you follow up on the event. So you're at least getting a 50/50, mix of event promotion and

storytelling. Because at the end of the day, churches are event organizations. We have events

that we have to promote, but telling those stories.

Cody Hickman 20:14

And I think that one of the differentiating factors for churches against other organizations,

where you're maybe just giving money, is that there's a real chance to get involved. And so

that's one thing we've done here, too, is try to really hone in on not just writing a check and

calling that a day, you know, we've done our good duty. But really, you know, following up,

building relationship with these organizations, and plugging in and serving at the food bank and

going down to Costa Rica, or, you know, whatever it might be, that takes that next step beyond

just writing a check. And for some people who can't write a check...

Eddie Rester 20:14

It gives them the opportunity to give.

Cody Hickman 20:25

It's an opportunity to still serve and still give.

Chris McAlilly 20:54

Yeah, and I think that that's aligning these things. I think particularly if you're trying to find

ways to get younger people involved in giving, it's expanding the category beyond financial

giving, but aligning the financial giving of the church with opportunities where young people

might be able to give their time.

Chris McAlilly 21:13

Especially in a college town.

Chris McAlilly 21:14

Yeah, I think that's something that's helpful.

Eddie Rester 21:19

Well...

Chris McAlilly 21:19

Yeah, go for it.

Eddie Rester 21:20

I was just going to say practically, one of the things that any organization can do inexpensively,

it's free, is something that I stumbled on years ago, that we did a lot while we were here, and

it's free, is something that I stumbled on years ago, that we did a lot while we were here, and

they all continue to do at OU and I'm taking it to my church in Dallas, is just the three question

interview. And you can do that, whether in worship or out of worship. You can do it in worship

and clip it. There are a lot of ways that you can use that so that you're helping someone tell the

story well. You're getting a point across with it. And because it's three questions, it's a time

constrained event.

Chris McAlilly 22:03

Yeah. And sometimes we've used that, I mean, yeah. And this is something that you kind of

brought into the worship context. It's a way to tell stories that's not just hey, promotion.

Eddie Rester 22:12

Right.

Chris McAlilly 22:12

It's a way to give... One of the difficult things is like giving somebody a microphone and not

knowing where they're gonna go.

Eddie Rester 22:18

Where they're gonna go. We've done that.

Chris McAlilly 22:19

We've had some bad experiences.

Eddie Rester 22:21

We've had some experiences. Let's just call them learning experiences.

Chris McAlilly 22:23

Learning. We did a lot of learning.

Eddie Rester 22:25

Yes.

Cody Hickman 22:26

A lot of learning.

Chris McAlilly 22:26

Lots of learning.

Eddie Rester 22:27

Lot of learning.

Chris McAlilly 22:28

But it's a way to tell mission impact stories, essentially, and then coming, not being afraid to

kind of come back around and back around and back around and connect the dots for people in

a saturated media environment. It's just like, what's the story that your organization is telling

around some of these matters. You've done a lot of this research. Any other kind of insights

that you've discovered as you've kind of looked into this?

Eddie Rester 22:55

The research on the younger two generations is fascinating on talking about giving, because

the older generations, boomers and Gen X, and I'm Gen X, they don't like you to talk about

giving. They don't want to hear about it. They just assume that it's happening. They'd rather

not talk about it. The youngest two generations are looking for someone, anyone, to help them

understand how to live with their financial life. That's not just giving, but they're interested in,

how do I make sense of I have money that comes in and money that goes out, and how do I live

faithfully in that? And so the Barna Group has done this research, and they find that, again, Gen

Z, millennials are okay with people in their churches having conversations around money, and

that's different, because most preachers are taught only talk about it when you have to.

Cody Hickman 23:44

I'm surprised to hear that, honestly. I didn't know that.

Eddie Rester 23:46

Yeah.

Chris McAlilly 23:46

I, you know, when I first started thinking about all of these things... You know, so I Eddie and I

worked together. I guess Eddie and Cody and I all worked together, but Eddie was in the lead

pastor seat and I was in the discipleship seat. So frankly, I just didn't have to think about these

things. I didn't think, you know, I just trusted Eddie, who had had a lot of experience in a lead

pastor role, to make sure that we had financial sustainability in our organization. If he said we

did, then I assumed that it was true, and I didn't interrogate it. And it was true.

Chris McAlilly 24:16

What I've learned is that... and so I had a fair amount of trepidation, talking about money,

because I didn't, I just didn't have a level of comfort with it. I was an English major.

Eddie Rester 24:29

No math.

Chris McAlilly 24:30

I just, math was not a thing that I did much of. But what I did realize is that ultimately, you

know, the kingdom of God is something that God is doing beyond, far beyond, just like one

organization or... And really the gift of the conversation is to be able to connect the dots for

people between what God is doing in the world and how they can be a part of it. And if you can

do that over and over and over again, it just creates far more abundance than, you know, one...

It doesn't just help one organization. It allows the organization to connect with what God is

doing in the community. And I just now have a ton of confidence that those that people want to

be a part of that with their resources, whether, for young people, if they don't have financial

resources to offer with their time. And for those who are maybe, you know, have done well in

their careers, or are retired, but can't go to a place like Costa Rica that it gives them a way to

be a part of what God is doing in the world, from a financial perspective.

Chris McAlilly 25:33

And I think that, yeah, I mean, I just think that it's... I wouldn't be... If you're out there and

you're listening to this, you're like, I just don't have a lot of comfort around it. The first step that

I would say, is develop your own theology of generosity. Go back to the Bible. Develop it for

yourself, so that you understand how you think about these things, and then allow anything

that you say to flow out of that. I think that's really helpful, you know, I was encouraged to do

that. It was really helpful for me.

Eddie Rester 26:00

And one of the things, when you talk about it, it grows generosity. There's a great article in Vox

last summer, and I think also in the New York Times as well, that generosity across the board is

flagging, not just to churches, but to all organizations. It's kind of dipping right now, and what

they're beginning to realize is that, as the church has begun to contract, generosity across the

board is contracting, because the Church teaches generosity more than any other organization,

that if you believe and trust that God is working in the world that we share in that work

financially. And so there's some big worry that as the institution of church fades at some level,

that it's impacting the larger generosity in the United States.

Chris McAlilly 26:51

I mean, that is part and parcel with the conversations you hear, where people are worried

about, what's the difference between... You know, if you don't have a Christian influence on the

culture, the assumption for a long time was thatmaybe things would get better, but it may be

that things could get far worse. Some of the base level kind of moral intuitions that have

emerged out the Judeo Christian tradition may not stay with us if people recede from the

church, and things actually might get coarser, and, you know, more I don't know, just like

harder edge.

Chris McAlilly 27:32

And so I think, I don't know. I think it should offer someone, if they're in a position of leadership

in a Christ-centered organization, in a church, to just double down on the base level teachings

of the Bible. I also think that it's helpful to go out and find resources in social science and

otherwise that reinforce the idea that generosity actually is good for people. There's a book

called "The Paradox of Generosity," by Christian Smith, and he talks about, like, all the

indicators of well-being emerge from being generous. People that are generous are happier.

They have fewer illnesses, and they live with greater purpose, and they experience less

depression, and they flourish. That is social scientific fact. And so it's not just that it's a good

idea that the Bible tells you to do it. It's that those who give receive. It's counterintuitive, but

it's true. By spending ourselves for others, we enhance our own well being.

Eddie Rester 27:32

Right.

Eddie Rester 28:35

There's another great resource called Saving Grace, and it's a guide to financial well being, and

it's a great resource that you can get. And it doesn't, it takes in that holistic view of, how does

this impact my life? How are my finances in general impacting my level of worry, stress, joy, or

freedom? And how do we work through that? I think finding resources to help in the journey and

help others in the journey, I think it's a gift that we can give.

Cody Hickman 29:06

Yep. I think the church, broadly, I think we've done this in some ways, maybe, I don't know if

we've named it out loud, but has just some work to do on regaining trust. I think that the

church has lost trust over the years and decades. I think some of that is, you know these big

televangelists and things that people, you know people who aren't in a local church, but the

only church they see is this, hey, you know...

Chris McAlilly 29:35

What's the one?

Cody Hickman 29:37

I thought we weren't naming people?

Chris McAlilly 29:39

Oh, no, never mind.

Cody Hickman 29:42

But like, you know, hey, give, and you'll, you'll get 20 fold. And, you know, this is a way to get

rich.

Eddie Rester 29:47

A little prosperity gospel.

Cody Hickman 29:48

Little prosperity gospel. And that was huge, like, my upbringing, it's, maybe it's not as much

now because there's so many other media outlets. But like, that's a big part of people turning

away from the church in general.

Eddie Rester 30:00

100%.

Cody Hickman 30:00

And a big part on the financial side for sure. You know, I'm not going to give so that you can go

buy your jet.

Chris McAlilly 30:06

Yeah, that's Creflo Dollar in Atlanta. Sorry, that's...

Cody Hickman 30:10

Yeah, yeah, that's one of them.

Eddie Rester 30:14

There are multiples.

Chris McAlilly 30:14

I was thinking about the Righteous Gemstones. That's what I was thinking about.

Eddie Rester 30:17

My daughters started watching the Righteous Gemstones recently, and they've got questions.

Cody Hickman 30:22

I think, but it's, I think that's a very real thing that people, my generation is still trying to

overcome. If I give to you, what does that money actually go into? Are you buying your new

house? Or is it going to actually help people? What is this actually doing?

Eddie Rester 30:38

And this is one of the places, again, that young adults have shifted. Older adults and in Gen X,

my generation, they have a level of trust, but young adults have grown up with organizations

putting out annual reports where they really say, this is where we spent your money this year.

This is where percentage went to different things. Churches, they might...Maybe they put out...

You know, I remember growing up my little church in Akron, at the end of every month, there

was a P and L sheet, profit and loss sheet, how much we took in, how much we spent. But that

didn't really tell the story. That was just for the accountants and those kinds of folks. I think

there's a great place for churches to tell a bigger, transparent story of how we spent your

money, not just telling the story of the impact, but we spent 15% on facilities last year.

Cody Hickman 31:35

Yeah.

Chris McAlilly 31:36

Yeah. I think that's...

Cody Hickman 31:36

Yeah. Just acknowledge the real things, because that's a big hang up for a lot of people. The

overhead of building and staffing and all the things that are utilities. So you're taking how much

percentage off the top of my dollar, that's not even going to help anybody.

Eddie Rester 31:49

Right.

Cody Hickman 31:50

That's real.

Chris McAlilly 31:51

You know, Eddie, you've done multiple capital campaigns for building infrastructure. Why

should anybody care about that? Why should anybody invest in infrastructure? Why does that

matter? Why not just spend that money to help somebody?

Eddie Rester 32:06

Yeah, which, though, that's the question I got asked every campaign. So I would ask that

question. It always comes back to, what's the mission? How can you expand the mission? And if

you grow the mission of reaching people for Jesus does that, then increase the ability of a

church to do the good, generous work and service in the community and beyond? And if the

answer to that is yes, then go for it. If you're just shining up the apple, then maybe it's not a

great thing. But if it aligns with your mission, and you can clearly articulate how it aligns with

your mission and pushes that mission forward so that more impact is made then that's worthy,

worthy of pursuing.

Eddie Rester 32:50

And I think that churches sometimes skip that, "why do we really want to do that?" step when

you talk about facilities.Because facilities, now more than ever, are way more expensive than

they used to be. When you look at the construction of the, I'm going to say this out loud, the

sanctuary at OU United Methodist Church in Oxford, Mississippi, which was built in the early

1950s--and it's not great. The walls bleed heat and air conditioning--versus what you build now,

according to codes, it's just tons more money to build now than it used to be. So you have to

have a clear answer of, how does this help us advance the mission?

Cody Hickman 33:29

Yeah, when I first came on to, actually, before I came on the staff here, I started, you know,

filling in on a Sunday, and then did interim for like, six months, and I didn't want this job for the

longest time. Because I had come from a situation that was, you know, a little bit of church

hurt, you know, woe was me. But we were just launching a building campaign here, and that

was a big detractor for me, at first to say, like, Hey, why are we spending this money? And what

are we doing this for? And again, I wasn't even on staff. But then I got to know, y'all. I got to

know some of the congregation, and actually, I got to know the why.

Eddie Rester 34:05

Yeah.

Cody Hickman 34:06

Here's what this is going to allow us to do. And it took me time, as like a church guy, to wrap

my head around it for this. And so I'm in a much different spot now than I was then. But I think

just knowing that, that there's always going to be a certain percentage of your congregation, or

new people who are coming in, or maybe somebody who's never even stepped foot in the door,

but they're in your community and they hear you're doing this building campaign. So I think

making sure that not only your people understand the why, so that they're giving and

supporting and it's in line with the vision and mission of the church, but your community needs

to know the why on some level so that you can maintain trust or build trust.

Cody Hickman 34:23

In your community. Exactly.

Chris McAlilly 34:44

Yeah. So the first thing I heard you guys talk about is just show your work, you know, be

transparent, and maybe that looks like adopting some of the practices that you see in other

sectors, like annual reports and budget breakdowns and updates on giving and spending that

might... That transparency can go a long way, in providing clarity and ultimately building

credibility. And then having a level of scrutiny to connecting what you're doing and why you're

doing it, both for your internal and external audiences. And then the other one, just circling

back around to what we said earlier, it's just stories of real impact.

Chris McAlilly 35:23

So, you know, the building campaign that we did together in 2016 to '18, one of the real

impacts of that is, yes, we built a building, and it's in the center of town, but it's allowed us to

be a community hub. And so you've got, you know, I mean, there were, I mean, just 1000s of

hours of building use for people in the community that otherwise wouldn't be, didn't have a

path of access into our community, and so we still have to connect the dots between the

people coming in the building and the and the community. So there's still work to be done. But I

think that generosity is helping create space for people that otherwise wouldn't be interacting,

perhaps, to be interacting, not only with us, but with one another.

Chris McAlilly 36:06

It really is becoming more of a third space in a time where, you know, people are not joining

organizations as much, and they need kind of third spaces outside of their personal and

professional life. So I do think telling those kinds of stories, I think can be very, very helpful in

building trust. But I do think that that's the key, that's the key phrase, is that in a low-trust

environment, what are the habits and practices that can be done to help gain or regain trust,

especially for younger generations? Anything else that you've that you've seen in your

research, or kind of in your travels, Eddie?

Eddie Rester 36:43

I was just reviewing a couple of things here. And Cody... Cody, oh, he's flashing.

Cody Hickman 36:49

Not gang signs. It's time.

Eddie Rester 36:50

Time signs. I was like, "What is he flashing at me?"

Chris McAlilly 36:54

Another math.

Eddie Rester 36:54

I think one of the things is just the willingness to listen or to give space for people to share and

to engage. And I think when we think about younger generations again, who have discretionary

giving, not just discretionary spending, who are going to give to the organization that's moved

them the most, most recently, creating space where you can listen and connect in those

generations. And I think that's a hard thing to do, because any transfer of power in any

organization, particularly from older to younger, that creates a sense of just anxiety. What are

we doing? We're doing something different? But I think that really creating some space for

people to have conversation about the life and the work of the church, or how the church is or

isn't responding in a moment.

Cody Hickman 37:50

I mean, I think just across the board, a church allowing questions is a good thing. I think, if

we're talking about building trust, whether it's finance or spiritual development, what does faith

look like in any given situation, being able to question things and have a safe place and a

pastor you can come to, where you can say, "hey, this part of the Bible confuses me," or

"I don't agree with it, " or "What's going on? Let's talk about it." That's a big deal.

Eddie Rester 38:15

Well, because it makes me stop and think, why are we doing it? Or, why are we doing it this

way? Or, why are we not addressing that?

Chris McAlilly 38:15

Or even, like, "Why are we spending money on this instead of that?" Like that, being willing to

receive that criticism, I mean, for for me, it's been helpful, because what it does is, ultimately,

it creates accountability with the community, so that, so that your responsibility, if you're in a

leadership role, in a financial leadership role that just allowing yourself to be held accountable

on those matters by the community of people that are investing in the organization and being

very responsive, I think, is one of the things I'm learning.

Chris McAlilly 38:55

Yeah, I guess the other thing for me, in terms of being in a financial leadership role within an

organization, is to develop habits and practices in my own personal life, where I am trying not

only to say these things, but to do them to, to develop habits and practices of generosity

myself has been helpful. And then, you know, essentially, every morning, getting up and

saying, "Christ, this is your church. This isn't mine. You know I'm here as a servant for you and

your mission." Like, that's been incredibly important for me, because it it reminds me that, the

reason why I'm doing any of this is not to prop myself up. That's not the goal. It's trying to put

your life in service of building up the body of Christ.

Chris McAlilly 39:42

And I think for me, it's that personal, that spiritual habit of coming back, literally, on my knees,

to say, this is your church. I want to do everything I can to build it up. But it's not about me.

That's a really important spiritual practice, to get my heart right so that when I'm having public

conversations around giving or generosity, it's coming out of the right spirit and the right place.

Eddie Rester 40:08

Because I think too often, it's very easy for leaders, whether it's pastors or finance committee

chair leaders or elder boards in Baptist churches, to really just focus in on we've got a church

budget, we've got a church building. We've got to maintain the budget. We've got to pay staff.

We got to... And you lose sight of it's not, it doesn't belong to us. We are stewarding a gift of a

facility that's a tool of a congregation that has this is all in service of the larger mission of

making disciples to change the world.

Chris McAlilly 40:44

Yeah, we're caretakers for a season of time.

Eddie Rester 40:46

Right.

Chris McAlilly 40:47

And, you know, God, the church, I mean watching the... We're recording this at a time where

the Catholic Church is electing a new pope, and just a reminder that the Church is has been

around a lot longer than any of us, and it will be around a lot longer than any of us, and for a

brief moment of time, we have an opportunity to steward these gifts. And you know, you can

choose how to do that. You can do it with jealousy and greed and fear and meanness and

manipulation and corruption and pride and all those things. Or you can choose to practice this

way of gratitude and responsible action, and you can try to create cultures of generosity where

people are giving their time and energy and money to renew and heal and restore the world,

your corner of God's creation. And that seems a lot more fun to me.

Eddie Rester 41:34

That is a lot more fun. Yeah, when you said you talked about the church a second ago, it

reminded me of a GK Chesterton quote that I looked up while you said that, it said, he said,

"Christendom has had a series of revolutions, and in each one of them, Christianity has died.

Christianity has died many times and risen again, for it had a God who knew the way out of the

grave." And I think that when we hold the Church lovingly but also loosely in our hands, then it

becomes a gift that can be shared and not something that we hold on to too tightly.

Cody Hickman 42:07

I think that's a really good reminder for specifically church staffers, so non pastoral role. So me.

It's good for me to hear you say that and you say this in other ways, and you exemplify it. And

Eddie, so have you over the years. But like, you want to hire good people who, and the larger

your church, the more you hire specialty people who are good at their jobs. And they're proud

of what they do, and they put a lot of time, effort, and energy into perfecting what they do. And

sometimes that becomes the focal point. And just being able to step back, say, Hey, we want to

be excellent, but we want to... This is not ours. This is not ours. It's going to be somebody else's

soon. And it's going to be God's forever." So just do the best that you can while you're here,

steward it well, and hold it loose.

Chris McAlilly 42:58

Yeah, I think that's right. And you know, for me, just having a deep, profound confidence that

God desires to renew the church for the healing of the nations, and just like having confidence

that God can use the time, energy, and effort that you put into creating a church or an

organization worth giving money to, will allow God to do a lot of great healing work. I mean, for

me, where all of this cashes out is in a young woman who came, who has not been a part of a

church,who came to our church on Easter, last Sunday, was a part of the congregation for

essentially an entire year, and then decided she wanted to be baptized, that she wanted to kind

of give. She's going to go into the medical profession. But what she wants to do is to do that

from... During the series we're doing on healing, she wants to connect the work that she wants

to do in the world, to heal people, to the healing ministry of Jesus.

Eddie Rester 42:58

There you go.

Chris McAlilly 44:02

And just getting to connect all of those dots, for me, it's just worth investing everything that i

can in it. And so, you know, hopefully, the conversation that we're having will inspire you to do

the same thing, wherever you are, in whatever corner of the world you're serving. And you

know, ultimately, I learned a lot of these things, they were modeled from you, Eddie, and other

leaders. And so, I think look for people that you trust, that you're like, "I like the way they're

doing it," and then go ask questions. Ask lots of questions to find as many resources as

possible, but develop your owntheology and understanding of generosity, and then speak from

that place of authenticity, that would be my biggest...

Eddie Rester 44:46

I think that's a good place to land on. I think that authenticity is, it's probably always been the

best tool in terms of, how do we spark generosity. But I think in this era, for the life of the

church and institutions, I think just being authentic about where we are and where we aren't,

what we can do together, and let that be the word.

Chris McAlilly 45:11

Are there any authentic words that you like to offer Eddie here as we end?

Cody Hickman 45:17

Just to Eddie? About finances?

Chris McAlilly 45:19

Just about anything.

Cody Hickman 45:20

Broadly.

Eddie Rester 45:21

Or apology for being mean to me yesterday.

Cody Hickman 45:24

Okay. I was a little mean to Eddie yesterday. I told him he didn't have any friends. [LAUGHTER]

Chris McAlilly 45:28

[LAUGHTGER] That's the last word. Don't take yourself too serious.

Eddie Rester 45:37

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Eddie Rester 45:45

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